Subject: best breakup tunes or stories Thu Mar 22, 2018 9:51 pm
do you have a favorite breakup tune, OR a tune that reminds you specifically of a significant breakup? or hell, share any sad relationship story. sharing helps, even if it's like picking at old scabs.
(WARNING, MIGHT BE BIT OF LENGTH HERE)
i begin...1988. I started dating April. She is carefree, heart of gold, beautiful rust colored hair washed in Infusium 23 (and whatever that weird Australian horse shampoo was then, i can't remember now. I remember this from showers together.). Imagine if Julia Robert had a bit heavier sister - that's April. We met while working at Krogers, dated 3 years. her family loved me, i loved them - lots of fun family night get togethers, which was fantastic because my family was all spread out (mom divorced, dad gone, bro at college.) worked together briefly awhile at nearby community college.
April started seeing my best friend in 91. Correction...she was interested in a friend of my best friend at the time, which led her to beginning to see my best friend. ME, being the shithead I was at that age, had grown MUCH too accustomed to her and YEP you got it, I took her for granted. So we split up, and I told her it's ok if you want to see my best friend or whoever.
Now in hindsight, this is fairly mature for us. We were young and dopey, yet could see it had run its course and split amicably. Happily she and I are FB friends to this day, which I love dearly as she's a wonderful person (and has since been married and divorced). BUT when we broke up it was awful. It cost me my job at the time as I was mentally a wreck, I went to the hospital and was treated for depression then and therapy a few months. So anyways - all's fine now.
Point being, super popular song at the time was 'Wicked Game' which used to wreck me when I heard it. I can listen to it now, but makes me all nostalgic for those past days.
desi Admin
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Subject: Re: best breakup tunes or stories Fri Mar 23, 2018 12:05 am
I could fill this thread easily LOL
Here are a couple that have some meaning for me tho..
Subject: Re: best breakup tunes or stories Fri Mar 23, 2018 10:02 am
@desi - wanna talk about it? obviously you don't have to.
it's funny how music both heals and can hurt us (from memories tied to it.)
interesting, for next few girlfriends i had, i don't have any specific tunes tied to the breakups.
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Subject: Re: best breakup tunes or stories Fri Mar 23, 2018 11:44 am
A couple years ago I met this awesome guy and we hit it off right away. About 3-4 months into it he was hit by an LRT and died, it messed me up pretty bad.
Im just glad I met my current boyfriend, we have a very intense connection and he is definitely the one I can see myself with
Subject: Re: best breakup tunes or stories Fri Mar 23, 2018 12:15 pm
in high school we called this the 'uh uh uh uh uh uh' song
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Subject: Re: best breakup tunes or stories Fri Mar 23, 2018 2:59 pm
Zaphod wrote:
sorry, i shouldn't have asked. Note to everybody, I'm good at putting my hoofers in my mouth
i am glad you're within someone special now
No need to be sorry, it seems silly when I look back on it because we were still in the getting to know each other phase. Once I met my current man I didn't feel so crazy, our connection was way stronger from the start. I also like that we met online but not on a dating site. We fell in love after he saw me on a YouTube livestream hahaha
Subject: Re: best breakup tunes or stories Fri Mar 23, 2018 3:43 pm
awwww now that's modern love, a youtube connection!
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Subject: Re: best breakup tunes or stories Fri Mar 23, 2018 4:30 pm
He's saved me from a horrible YouTube rabbit hole I was being sucked into... there are some messed up people in this world... I learned alot about the limits a person will go to just to watch your reaction to being mind fucked.